I've been waiting almost two years now for a thank-you card from a wedding I attended. Just after the one year anniversary, I asked the bride's mother if thank-you cards had gone out yet so I'd know if mine had possibly been lost in the mail. She just laughed and said she didn't know, but would ask her daughter. I've heard nothing since.
When I was married, proper etiquette dictated that your cards went out within three months of the wedding; now I understand couples have up to a year. Why? How hard is it to write 3 cards a night (90 in a month, 270 in three months); how busy can you be? If you must, an e-card is better than nothing. Nothing is just plain rude. The giver can only assume you didn't appreciate the thought or effort that went into buying something or that all you cared about was presents and presence was optional. Don't expect much when the baby shower comes along, that's all I can say.
Recently I spoke with a senior lady who had regularly sent money to a far-off niece for her children's birthdays, Christmas, etc. After years without any kind of thanks, she decided to keep her gifts in her purse. Nothing was said and her decision was validated.
My kids know that if they ever get married and receive wedding gifts, I will expect them to send some kind of thank-you to friends and family who give. While it's their responsibility to do the actual job, I will be asking them at various points if the task has been done. Hopefully I've raised thankful kids and won't need to do this. We shall see.
I hate to ask it, but do you think this is a generational thing or are some of my peers or elders equally thankless? Whatever happened to thank-you?