Though we sometimes distinguish between listening and hearing, Dictionary.com defines "listen" as
to give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing; give earand "hear" as
to listen to; give or pay attention toso the two are really interchangeable.
In my earlier post I said that we need to listen twice as much as we speak. Everyone wants to feel heard and when you're talking, trying to get your own points across, you're often not listening. Even when the other person responds to what's being said, we may not hear her but are busy formulating our next thoughts.
This week try this: when communicating with your young adult child, don't ignore or gloss over what he's saying. Intentionally focus on and attend to his words. Take your time responding. Reflect back what you think you heard. Paraphrase his thoughts then let him expand, elaborate, correct. You just might learn something new. You just might build your relationship and take it to a new level.
Blindness separates us from things, but deafness separates us from people. ~Helen Keller__________________
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