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Monday, 10 April 2017

Hear

When I talked about communication several days ago, I failed to mention its three main components: speaking, listening and understanding (interpretation). 

Though we sometimes distinguish between listening and hearing, Dictionary.com defines "listen" as 
to give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing; give ear
and "hear" as
to listen to; give or pay attention to 
so the two are really interchangeable. 

In my earlier post I said that we need to listen twice as much as we speak. Everyone wants to feel heard and when you're talking, trying to get your own points across, you're often not listening. Even when the other person responds to what's being said, we may not hear her but are busy formulating our next thoughts. 

This week try this: when communicating with your young adult child, don't ignore or gloss over what he's saying. Intentionally focus on and attend to his words. Take your time responding. Reflect back what you think you heard. Paraphrase his thoughts then let him expand, elaborate, correct. You just might learn something new. You just might build your relationship and take it to a new level.


Blindness separates us from things, but deafness separates us from people. ~Helen Keller
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6 comments:

  1. So true about conversation with everyone; but, especially your family. It would also help your children be better conversationalist. We all learn first by example.

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    1. I agree Ann; we teach our children so many things and are often unaware just how much they learn by watching *our* conduct.

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  2. On the money! Webster aside, to me hearing is the function of the ears, listening the function of the bran, and understanding the function of the hheart.
    Perspectives at Life & Faith in Caneyhead

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    1. Very good distinctions, Barbara - thank you!

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  3. Very important words today my friend!

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