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Monday, 24 April 2017

Trust

We all want to trust our children. According to dictionary.com, trust as a verb with an object means:
  • to have trust or confidence in; rely or depend on
  • to believe
  • to permit to remain or go somewhere or to do something without fear of consequences
  • to invest with a trust; entrust or charge with the responsibility for something
As with respect, trust is something that is earned, not automatically given. Initially, children show us that they are trustworthy by their obedience and truthfulness. "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right" is a favourite passage for many Christian parents.  Most would acknowledge that the second verse, "Honor your father and mother..." (Ephesians 6:1-2a) is the expression of that thought for children who have matured into young adults. The emphasis is no longer on blind agreement or the letter of the law, but on showing respect and consideration.

At any rate, not to get sidetracked, while we want to trust our children, they don't always obey and they don't always honour. This seems to be human nature and if we look back on our own childhoods, teen years, and young adult periods, we know that we too were at times deceitful, less than forthcoming, or downright disobedient and rebellious. We wanted to do something "forbidden," we gave in to peer pressure, we listened to the "little devil" whispering in one ear and ignored the "little angel" whispering in the other.

Some children never seem to veer from doing what is right. We need to thank God if we have one or more of those! We should not lose our compassion for parents who are struggling, however. Truly, the rain falls on the good and on the bad, just as the sun spreads its shine evenly over the earth.

Another favourite verse of Christian parents is "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6). While this is a general guideline and not a promise (it's a proverb!), we do need to trust in the work we have done to raise our children with faith and integrity. I have heard many, many stories of parents whose wayward children have done a 180 degree turn from wasted living to productive, joyful living. So there is hope!

We must also trust in the work God is doing in the lives of our children. He loves them even more than we do and "He who began a good work in [them] will be faithful to complete it" (Philippians 1:6). If you have an personal experience of God, you know that He is faithful and completely trustworthy. Even if we don't see the evidence right now, we can be sure that He is doing something and when our children do come around, He will get all the credit and all the glory because we will know it was nothing that we did. 

And isn't trusting God what it's really all about?
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4 comments:

  1. I love to complain about my children, because hey, nobody is perfect. But I do trust them to make the right decisions about the big stuff (like respect and kindness for teachers and students at school). The little stuff like too much screen time or expanding their bed time until I'm frothing at the mouth? Forget about it.

    T is for the Tuskegee Study of Untreated Syphilis

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    1. It's true, we do have to pick our battles!

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  2. So far so good with mine :) as long as they get the big things right, I can overlook the petty stuff...

    Nilanjana
    Madly-in-Verse

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    1. Every child is different, every person and situation unique. When it comes to family, it's a lot easier to trust because you know how you are raising them. At the same time, we are not their only influences. They may change in response to peer pressure and it may take a while for us to become aware as they become adept at wearing a mask.

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