I revealed my theme on March 20th, but if you missed it all you need to know is that my subject is parenting young adults. With an almost-22-year-old daughter and an almost-20-year-old son, I'm in the beginning stages, am by no means an expert, and lack the benefit of hindsight. However, I'll share what I'm learning or have learned so far and hope that older, more experienced voices will chime in. If you're a young adult, feel free to offer your feedback. As long as everyone's respectful, it's all good.
Now to the letter A...
We spend our lives adjusting and changing. We start off as infants, learn and grow, become toddlers, children, adolescents, teenagers, young adults, and finally adults. At some point along the way, many of us enter romantic relationships, get married (or not) and have children.
It's an adjustment to go from being single to being married or in a committed relationship, an adjustment to go from being a twosome to adding a child. Every stage along the way has its joys and challenges, its highs and its lows. Becoming the parent of a young adult is just another chance to adapt and discover a new normal.
Young adults are still figuring things out, still developing a sense of who they are really and what they believe about the world. Some are still in school, some are in the workforce. I suppose some are wandering, literally and figuratively. Whatever they're doing, self-discovery is a big part of it. Many are away from home for the first time, meeting people who think far differently from the way they were raised, and so they question, try on new ideas, do things they might never have considered doing before. For better or worse.
Sometimes our young adults want our help and sometimes they want independence. The wise parent knows her job is to encourage the latter while still being supportive. The wise parent is one who understands and adjusts.
If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. ~Author unknown