What are other ways we can give?
We can give our time, energy, attention, affirmation and affection.
Are you familiar with the 5 love languages? Put forward by author Gary Chapman in the mid-1980s, the "languages" are
- quality time (another word for focus)
- words of affirmation (blessing/encouragement)
- physical touch (aka affection)
- acts of service (or as I put it, energy)
You could take your young adult out for lunch and meaningful conversation or join with them to do an activity they enjoy (bowling, hiking, escape room, for example).
You could ensure you're giving her lots of positive feedback. This can be verbal, on post-its placed where she can see them, on note cards that come in the mail, in e-mails, etc. The possibilities are endless and the main thing is to do it!
You could give him hugs if he'll still let you (if his love language is physical touch, chances are he will!) or just make a point of touching his arm, patting him on the back, fist-bumping, etc. Hey, whatever it takes!
You could do her laundry if you see she's swamped with assignments and studying for exams, offer to drive her to work on a rainy day, make his favourite meal for supper, do his taxes. The service and frequency are up to you. You don't want to usurp their responsibilities on a regular basis as a way of teaching them they're off the hook, but to do something like this occasionally - as an act of love and/or observation that they could use a hand at a particular moment in time - will be most appreciated and welcomed.
Speaking of acts of service, if anyone wants to come over and clean my house, you are more than welcome. Even if I'm not a young adult. As blessed as it is to give, it's a blessing to receive also.
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